Friend or Associate...






Recently,one of my clients called me asking some advice. 

She was almost heartbroken at some comments a FRIEND of many years made. 

Short story shorter, she's been making some changes in her life for the better and said FRIEND didn't respond in an encouraging manner. Said FRIEND starts grilling her! 

The "friend" and I use that term loosely asks 

"Why you always forward thinking all of a sudden?" 

"Why you always talking about reading books?" 

"Why you always going to those empowerment meetings?"

Pause...

Ask yourself, would a REAL FRIEND discourage your personal growth? 

I'm sure we all know the answer to that. Fact is, many people we consider friends are really associates. They may be friend-ly or friend-like, but friends they are not. Everybody you know DOESN'T have your best interests at heart. 

A REAL FRIEND would be happy for your personal growth and upcoming success.

Choose your friends wisely. 

A negative attitude or loser mentality can be contagious. It can even rub off on you little by little without you knowing. 

A wise man once said, "There are two things that will influence who you'll become, the books that you read and the people you hang around." With that said, choose friends and associates compatible with your goals and interests. Your "friends" are either adding to your life, or taking away from it. Pick the right ones. 

It's okay to outgrow people, you can jump higher without dead weight.

4 comments:

  1. thanks...its wat i needed

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  2. I've always been a good judge of character. Even without having personal interaction with individuals...but a few FALSE individuals made their way in my life and in dealing with certain recent events in my life I learned a very valuable lesson about quite a few SO CALLED friends. I use the term RARELY. Most people make the associate list and stay there...some not even there...just time passers or space fillers (i.e. nobody else is available to hang out or do something)...but trust once I learn you for WHAT you are...trust and believe a FRIEND you will never be! Great post homie! And you already know...you my homie til the end!

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  3. Super late, but Love ya homie!

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