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Control

Dominance is my thing.

I like to get things done & always feel more comfortable if they get done my way. 

This is an issue I've been fighting with myself over for the majority of my natural born life. However, as an adult, I'm starting to learn a few things. Let me share them with you. 

As of late, I've learned two very important lessons about control. Number one, you can't control other people & secondly, you can't control everything.  That may sound simple to you, but for a dominant type A personality like me, it's been somewhat of a challenge. 

Let's talk about controlling people, you can't. The end. 

I kid, but on a serious note, you can't. You can present the most logical of solutions or situations to a person and it simply doesn't matter. They can clearly be doing something that's detrimental to everything they stand for, but that's them. Remember, it's not about what you want, it's about what they want. It's their life.  They have the right to make the decisions that shape their life. The only thing you can control is if you deal with their decisions or not. That's the scope of your choices there. Choose wisely. 

Secondly, you can't control everything. I've often found myself saying "If only (this person) would do ____" or "I can't believe that _____."  I'm not God, with that said I have very little control about what goes on in the world. I can only control what I participate in and how I react to it. Once I figured this out, I actually felt silly for trying. 

You may or may not have been affected by this type of attitude. If not, great. If so, this is something I've learned (and am still learning) in my personal experience. I hope this adds value & you can benefit from my mistakes and experience. 

Control what you can control & enjoy the rest. That's your job. 

Til next time, Peace...

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