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Best Advice I Got From My Mom

I want to start this by saying my mother is an amazing example of work ethic and love. The cool thing about her is she always led by example and not just with words. Growing up, I saw my mother work sun up to sundown FOR YEARS just to provide for me! She started as a food prep person at a local fast food restaurant with every excuse to be average. Language barriers, racism & classicism, prejudice and unwarranted hatred were a daily thing for her. Short story shorter, with a lot of prayer and work, she ended up topping out her position's pay scale and turning down the next position in the corporate ladder! My mother always worked very hard. As a kid, often, she would be gone when I woke up and fast asleep when I got home. I didn't understand this was for me when I was younger, but I certainly do now.

 It's funny, a lot of people tell me they admire my "grind." Honestly, I don't think I'm doing anything spectacular.  I just made a decision to work towards my goals every day and I stick with it.  I firmly believe my work ethic is due solely to seeing my mother's. She never gave me, or herself, the luxury of excuses. I remember her walking me to and from day care, AFTER working 10-12 hour shifts........without a complaint. Am I bragging on her? Maybe a little but I'm getting to the point now.

A lot of our moms probably gave us a bunch of similar advice. Treat others as you wanted to be treated, keep your word, be nice to everyone, and all the other cliches. Over the years, my mom has given me a lot of great nuggets. Mothers have a tendency to be very wise. While writing this, I've taken about 3 days to determine what the absolute BEST advice she's ever given me. I've been blessed to have a lot to narrow down. I think I've got it. Here goes.... 

I remember her saying... 

"There are people who won't like you for no reason. Some won't like you just because of the way you look . You're Black and Korean. You're going to have it twice as hard as I have. If you want anything in this world you're going to have to work three times harder than the next person to get it! You're going to have to be three times better than anyone doing what you're doing. It's just the way it is. but you can be ANYTHING you want, no matter what anyone says."

That..to me...if you boil it down to it's barest essence is what has helped me through the greatest of trials, tribulations, and heartaches. Her telling me these harsh truths and such a young age prepared me for what was to come. Though it was a 1 minute talk, that stuck and will stick with me for a life time. She shared so many life lessons in just a few words. 

So where do we go from here. Yes, my mom is super cool. Yes, she deserves to have a blog dedicated just to her. However, this is about you. You're reading this for you, not her. I shared her wisdom with you as to have an impact. Hopefully, it impacts you like it has impacted me. Take this advice, that has helped me tremendously, and apply it. You CAN be anything you want to be if you work hard enough. There will be people that won't like you, win anyway. I'm grateful for such a great role model approaching this year's Mother's Day. In addition, I'm grateful to be able to share a little of how awesome my mother is with you. I hope this helps someone. I'm sure she does too.  

Mom, thank you. I love you and you're the greatest. No more velcro shoes. 




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